Thursday, May 28, 2009

Love & Marriage

Before my sister and future brother-in-law walked into the sealing room for their wedding, I looked around the room at all the people who had sullen and dismal expressions on their faces, and told them to lighten up: "This is a wedding! You're supposed to be happy! I think if I was ever a sealer, I wouldn't be able to resist, and at some point I'd say, 'Mawwiage. Mawwiage is what bwings us togethew today.' Which is why I'll probably never be a sealer."

I got a few chuckles and smiles, which is what I was going for. I just hated how sad and dismal everyone looked at such a happy time. And then, who cried the most when the wedding was over and he was hugging his little sister? Me, of course. Well, maybe it was a draw between the two of us.

At my wedding, I told her not to cry. :)

April 30, 2009 was the happiest day of my entire life. As I walked out of the temple with my sweetheart, holding her hand, everything was perfect. The weather, which we had worried about for weeks, cooperated and was gorgeous all day, allowing us to have our reception line outside, like Kristen had always wanted. She was beautiful. The reception center looked great. The music was fantastic. The dancing was fun. All in all, it was just a good, fun day. Even the confetti that was thrown in the car right before we left couldn't put a damper on things.



And in my many, many days of marriage (28 so far), it's been wonderful. :) I've learned, though, that marriage isn't easy. People always tell you that, but you don't truly understand. At least, not until you're actually married. All of a sudden, you have another person living with you. Someone with a different way of doing things, who was raised differently, who, essentially, comes from a different culture.



I mean, you do your best to talk about things before the wedding, to make the transition as smooth as possible, but there's no way you could think of everything. There are all kinds of things someone may do subconsciously that you're not used to.

But despite the bumps in the road we've experienced and I'm sure we'll continue to experience, we are happy, we're in love, and we're looking forward to spending an eternity together.

5 comments:

James said...

It was good to see you and your fam! I really like that bottom pic.

Nae said...

Adam, that was beautiful. It really touched me. :) Thank you for being so wonderful! I'm so glad that you are my best friend's husband! Keep smiling!

Bob said...

It's true that marriage, at times, can be tough. I have learned that I am typically to blame. Some fatherly advice...remember these four things and all will be well. Two you learned on your wedding day, the other two you've been taught directly or learned in principle at various times throughout your life. 1) She's an angel. 2) She's Heavenly Father's daughter. 3) She's "there." 4) You'll need to work the rest of your life to be "there." Remember the first three and number four will be a lot less difficult and certainly a lot more enjoyable.

I love you. Dad

Lani said...

Congratulations! You guys look so cute! I'm sad I wasn't able to make it down for your reception. I would have loved to have met your wife!

Janae Walker said...

transition is always a difficult thing and it comes again and again throughout your life. i am glad you guys are doing well! keep communicating......it is one of the keys :) you guys look beautiful!